Saturday, March 29, 2014

Tinge of everything AND A BIT OF COMMON SENSE

hello everyone.
again i am slow to keep up the blogging.

but again there is that stress, the humbug of stress.
and distress in a lot of things.

I am thinking of sickness.
not just for my sister and my self.

I am thinking of family
not just for my sister and myself.

I am also thinking of other words, they trip over each other to demand a dominant space to ponder, find a solution for and get cleared out of the lexicon.
we have for instance trotting one on top of the other.....
             Financial worry
             cut backs
             Lack of services.
             Global pain (will explain)
             pain - again - I will explain.
     ABANDONMENT FROM SOCIETY.  - I will address this as well.

I guess really, the final statement or cluster of words in an ungrammatical sentence would explain all the above as being the cause of all the above.

i will not go through the list but it does concentrate the mind away from the following:




   is, a separation between those who do engage on a healthy level and find purpose and reasons that sustain them.
  people have enough energy to retain the friendships, explore the possibility of more and entertain with empathy.
HAVE full engagement without worry or stress. Energy will be no real difficulty so to cause a crash of regrets, slumber, agony and  depression.

Lonlieness is alienation from a world that is running on full.
Lonliness is a separation, you are caged either within four walls or soft bedding.
Lonliness means no communication because the world has decided to carry on without you.
I am alone!
Lonliness is feeling helpless to effect change due to sickness, disability.
Lonliness is the separation from the full tank of purposeful endeavour.

No you are not!
The connectedness of peoples are broken when an individual gets sick.
When a person becomes disabled there is a fear of abandonment, also many fights ensue which cause the gap to widen within society, a community,  a friendship and family.

Many roll on by and many decide to castigate the person so unwell as being a cause of something completely outside the disability itself.
when the clash begins between a well person and an unwell person it can lead to feuding, misunderstanding, alienation and silence and this may last for years or decades or weeks.

................I am alone................
The distance then becomes wider and the gap is getting bigger not narrowing to bring all to a place where one does embrace the other.

Reason goes out the window.
The sick know in their hearts that they need help but as far as it goes, that help is to assist them remain in society.
This is the agenda for the sick and disabled.
There is the right to carry on as equal and this is not a contentious issue in itself, its a reasonable request of the sick and disabled.   Belonging is part of what we call 'society.'

The well, the healthy and the able see it in a totally different way.

 They remark with horror how you do not cope but fail to understand the dynamic of coping.
Most do cope with help, when sick and disabled.
This notion seems to be lacking in the psyche of the person who is bouncing about with glee, enthusiasm and focus.

They also feel that with sickness something may happen their own joie la vie, but this isn't necessarily so.
No person who is disabled requires or demands the full and undivided attention of another.
...........NO!  YOU ARE NOT!...........

Many just want an easier way to cope which requires  a tad bit of help.

The vast difference between what a disabled person perceives as need and what an abled bodied person perceives (with fear of demand) of need by another individual are two entirely different concepts.

I can illustrate with ease some ideas around how help, assistance and care are not expensive of time, energy or money.

Anyone would have a lunch out from time to time with others and banter and chat.
The only difference of providing this for a disabled person is a bit of arranging around schedule, accessability and time frames.

The lunch may be nearer to home, may be shorter and may require a bigger transport vehicle and just a tiny edge of time both sides of the lunch, but actually if the lunch was to become shorter, no time is actually wasted.

The rest is simples.
The banter and chat can be equal and all come away happy.

i know someone will then say there are different levels of disability that require far more input.
if so, and yes so, then the intervention can be less frequent, less complicated and others can step in for a slot if arrangement by phone can take place.

A sickie may then need or require a bowl of soup to her/his home.
The banter will be less fraught for all and cuts to the chase.

To abandon completely to lonlieness in the face of laziness is just that.
Abandonment which is not justified is unhelpful and causes harm to both parties.

Family and society breaks apart when perceptions are twisted in such a way.

The disabled are as a group 'hard work.'
..................NOT SO.............................

Because............ (people are all hard work) just demands a bit of heart.
most don't really like work, but heart is cheap.
There is not a difference to the quality of engagement, the quality of acceptance and the quality of love when someone becomes sick and unwell and disabled.

when two people fall out especially if they never have before and its over disability, need and desire then its about perception of input that usually is to blame.
Most are not asking a lot just a bit of accommodation and tweaking of ways of engagement.

Disabled people need to be part of society as equal in a way that brings enjoyment for everyone.
None want antagonism, quarrelling and pain of the different kind.
most just want to be part of the world going round until it stops for you or us or when the world stops anyway because we also are crucifying it!
That is another blog entirely.

I bet you will find that blog is about the same.
Work if another way is can be found, a perception of cost, perception of time and perception of hardship.

in essence, humans seem to demand an easy life.

 Some get it and a vast number have a life of pain, anquish and abandonment on a grand scale.
hardly fair when we are social beings and consider ourselves as such and enjoy being so.
it seems though
.........'it all depends......' it does............
........IS IT TOO HARD WORK THEN?..............

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